It’s not all doom and gloom

I’ve been struggling with having published the last blog post. I teeter between leaving it there or taking it down. Right now my thought is to leave it. It’s party of my journey and you never know, it may help someone. If it does please let me know. I was so relieved when my new bloggy friend Susanne left her comment.

Anyway, at present it’s staying.

But it’s not all doom and gloom. I have friends in the church and outside of it who are so thoughtful. Lovely Husband is a campanologist, a bellringer. They are a very sociable and friendly bunch.  They recently had a social event in one of the member’s homes. I didn’t go as I had someone to meet up with the following day so I was having a quiet day in preparation. Not knowing if I was up to going to the event or not, and unbeknown to us, the hostess had set up some quiet areas for me to retreat to if necessary.

There are another couple in our village who have a regular carol singing party every December. They invite me to go half an hour earlier than everyone else so that I will feel included. I get to have a chat with them, have some wonderful hot, spiced apple drink and nibbles and then able to leave quietly when the noise and movement get too much.

These acts warm my heart so much and make me feel loved and accepted. I thank them for their love and kindness from deep within my heart xxxx

Author: yarnandpencil

I'm a Christian on the autistic spectrum blogging about life and my art/craft practice.

9 thoughts on “It’s not all doom and gloom”

  1. I very much appreciated the honesty in your last post – and could definitely relate. For me the best conversations would revolve around my pets and other such interests, rather than yarn (by the way, I have thought your creations to be beautiful, would love to have such talent, and have wanted to be able to spin my own yarn since I was a child.) I often struggle with going out, and completely relate to how it takes so long to calm down after. I will say that I am “crashing.” It takes many days, and sometimes weeks or months to settle down again, depending on the situation. I would vote to ‘leave it up,’ as it is our vulnerabilities that brings comfort to people who feel all alone in their struggles.

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    1. Thank you so much for your supportive and encouraging words. I have one dog, Bertie, who is getting old. He was a rescue dog and know nothing of his previous life apart from what I could deduce from his behavior. He is such a joy. We think he may be Cairn or part Cairn terrier. You have two dogs…? xxx

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      1. (Sorry, commenting on your post was the last thing I did online before I left for vacation for a week.) Yes I have two Chihuahuas – Molly (5) and Clara (4 the end of this month – on my birthday!) I adopted both in 2016 after I lost my Pomeranian, Gryffindor, to heart failure at 7 years 10 months. We also have three cats – We adopted Finn (12) and Ditch (13) in 2012 after my 16yo cat died. My son got his cat Nicholas (1) from the SPCA a couple of weeks after his nearly 19yo cat died (he’d had her since he was 2, and they were inseparable.)

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    2. Let me reiterate your last comment. In my experience, by sharing one’s vulnerability we are actually giving others permission to share their vulnerability. That opens up heartfelt sharing which is the heart of living in community. Sometimes the greatest relief is knowing that others have similar struggles. On the face of it, many people look like they are doing great
      When we hide behind our ‘mask’ it sends a message that makes it hard for others to pull back their ‘mask’.

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  2. I’m glad I found your blog or did you find me? In any case, we share the fiber art connection, but your posts are helping me learn more about autism spectrum disorders. My nephew has Aspberger’s, as does my brother, who was diagnosed as an adult. To be honest, I experience some of the things you do, like not wanting to leave the house because there are people out there but to a lesser degree than what you describe. Most of the time I can overcome the anxiety, but I’ve gotten better about forgiving myself when I can’t. Keep writing & posting – you’re making a difference!

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