Commenting

Hi, it’s me again already!

In my previous blog over on Blogger where I wasn’t really being me (it was more like an enforced happy mask) I would get very anxious trying to leave a comment after every post I read. Sometimes it could take up to half an hour to write one or two sentences. In the end I became so disheartened it was easier to give up blogging altogether.

When back in August I returned to my blog, I decided to start afresh over here on WordPress. I made a rule for myself: if i cannot think of something to say immediately after reading a post, I don’t say anything. Sometimes I really want to let the person know I care so I leave a heart if words fail me. Other times I might leave a smiley face or a couple of xxΒ  If I’ve enjoyed and/or been moved by a piece of writing I always click on ‘like’ (even though the word itself often falls short!).

I think this difficulty, where words fail me, is linked to my autism. Maybe it has something to do with executive functioning….?

Please, if you follow me, never agonize over leaving a comment.

Author: yarnandpencil

I'm a Christian on the autistic spectrum blogging about life and my art/craft practice.

28 thoughts on “Commenting”

  1. I relate to this sooo much! I can’t always organise my words to say what I really want to say, or my kids are dragging me off to look at something they’ve done and then I never get back round to commenting. I like the idea of leaving a heart or something though when words fail me (and they often do!) xx

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  2. Yep, you’re definitely not alone! 😘 This happens to me all the time. Sometimes I read a post and a comment practically writes itself (like this one lol πŸ˜‰πŸ˜Š). Other times, I lack the energy/spoons to come up with the words, but the sentiment is there. I, too, find emojis helpful when words escape me but I want to communicate something anyway; I use the clapping hands emoji a lot, especially when I agree with something. The heart emojis for loving a post, and the flower bouquet for sympathy or empathy, and so on. Sometimes I mark a post by leaving a browser tab open, as a reminder to myself to comment when I can…which works some of the time lol πŸ˜‰πŸ˜πŸ’–

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  3. I hear you! I never know if my words adequately express what I want to say. I leave my comments, but usually think of them as banal. I want to comment here, but find myself opting into a comment less on Facebook.

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  4. Me too! But I don’t think there should any pressure to comment if it ever feels forced. Just make sure you’re having fun while reading posts (and creating them) because that’s what it’s all about πŸ™‚

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  5. I can definitely understand how agonizing over leaving a comment and the wording would end up feeling like more than it’s worth. Plenty of alternatives available, as you’ve mentioned. No need to get frustrated or add more pressure on yourself.

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  6. Can relate to you on this one for sure! If I feel like I can’t say anything right away I just hit the like button. Sometimes that’s all you can do at that moment. There’s always more blog posts and opportunities to comment πŸ™‚

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  7. I have the same problem. Often it is late in the evening when I manage to catch up on other’s blog posts and my mind won’t work when I’m tired. The words don’t come easily or everyone has already said what I would like to say. Different time zones don’t help and you sometimes feel you are behind the conversation when in fact it is at least half a day ahead here. It’s like on-line jet lag!

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  8. There’s something quite charming and engaging about this post. It conveys a strong sense of an actual person behind the words, which I have to assume is you (and not the happy-masked version of you from your first attempt at blogging).

    I can easily relate to spending what seems like ridiculous amounts of time on a couple of sentences. For me, writing is mostly rewriting, and the length of the final product is a poor predictor of how many words I actually wrote, edited, deleted, rewrote, cut, pasted, slept on and then got up early to try again with a fresh cup of coffee in order to get to that final product. πŸ™‚

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    1. Thank you. Yes, I really try to be me on this blog as I see it as a place where masks aren’t needed if I am to be honest.
      Quite often words completely fail me. I can feel something deeply but have no words to describe these.
      When I write a post I generally don’t labour over them because if they go to draft it’s highly likely they would never get published! The labouring can be so stressful.

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