Setting Boundaries and the Autism Spectrum

Everyday Aspie

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I am on the autism spectrum and have coexisting conditions, including PTSD and GAD (Generalized Anxiety Disorder). Because of my prior history and the nature of my neurology, sometimes I find it hard to set boundaries. Furthermore, it is a challenge to recognize when my boundaries have been crossed. Sometimes it takes me days, months, or even years to recognize I have been violated or mistreated.  That’s why it’s important to have a sounding board, like a support group or a trusted friend. And why it’s important to continually practice setting limits.

Being I am autistic, interpreting another’s behavior and intention often proves difficult. In addition, others might interpret my kindness, soft voice, and stature as a sign of weakness. Even as I am strong and confident, my demeanor and inability to notice when another has crossed a line puts me at risk. Examples include a supervisor criticizing and…

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Sensory issues are accessibility issues

YennPurkis

Last year I went  to a breakfast with some of the community leadership people in Canberra. It was at a nice cafe and two of the people at the table ordered an omelette with black truffles. The wait person cam over and shaved truffles generously on both the omelettes. I struggle with mushrooms and fungus and had never been in close proximity to truffles before. The smell emanating from the offending luxury breakfast was so overpowering I had to sit at another table some distance from everyone else. I imagine they may have thought I was quite strange but I really needed to be away from that smell. I actually had flashbacks of the smell for a few weeks. I would be doing my thing and suddenly I was back with the truffle smell! It was like it was inside of me.

That is a fairly clear example fos…

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The Recipient joy factor

I love sending and receiving happy mail so I just have to reblog this post xxx

Margarete Miller

A friend of mine, Miss Polly, brought a little illustration like this one about correspondence to my attention:

A graph of time factor versus recipient joy factor

This is so spot-on! For me this is particularly true for the sending and receiving of mail art. Of course, you don’t always need to create mail art, you can just write a letter and send anything interesting that will lie flat in an envelope. What would interest you if you were opening a letter? Here are some ideas:

  • An old or interesting photo or two
  • A few stickers
  • A neat bookmark
  • An old or interesting postcard
  • Some old cancelled postage stamps
  • A little handmade notebook, blank or something stamped/written in it.
  • A bunch of interesting papers to collage from (I get lots of these and love it 😉 )
  • Tags or other small die cuts
  • Origami
  • Anything that’s rubber stamped

My good friend and correspondence artist extraordinaire Pamela, wrote a…

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Sensory Processing Disorder Research Study and Survey

21andsensory

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Hi everyone – this is just a little blog post to let you know about a research study that I’m (and hopeful you will be) involved in.

I’ve been speaking via email to a super lovely student from the University of KOC (Turkey) who is studying Media and Visual Arts and has participated in design research for people with ASD. Now they’ve gone further with research and to specialise in design relating to Sensory Processing Disorder. A survey link was sent through to me this week and I am trying to share it with as many people as possible in order to help with the research!

Below is a link to the survey and it would be fab if you have a spare 5 mins and can fill it  out:

http://koc.ca1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_032S5XEHYXqKXad

Thanks! Any questions, feel free to ask in the comments below or @21andsensory on Instagram and Twitter.

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Let it Go

Hi lovelies, my YouTube friend, Tracie, who has been a great inspiration to me, has started a blog and I thought many of you may be interested….

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It is 4.15 am right now and I was thinking this is a good time to share my next tip for getting organised and this one, may also help your sleep.

So many things can affect our sleep and there are many solutions that you can try to improve the quality and amount of sleep you get. I have, over the years, tried most of them and I have to say I have simply come to accept that I need to get to bed around 10.00 pm, and I will be up around 4.00 am. I will also wake several times in-between.

When I go to bed I can pretty much fall asleep immediately and if I wake during the night I am no longer awake for hours at a time. This is partially, if not completely, down to more planning. It sounds crazy but I am going to introduce…

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(My) Autism ~ Stripping the pipelines

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I suppose I’ve been in sort of a cocoon lately.  To transform into what, I don’t quite know yet.  I’m not even exactly certain that that’s what I’ve been doing.  But, that’s what it feels like at times.  Alexithymia is multi-dimensional, I guess; I’m not sure it’s limited to emotions.  In fact, it might pertain to multiple areas of thought and feeling.  Especially when thoughts and feelings blur.

Thoughts these days.

I’m also not sure exactly why this particular time is an introspective one for me.  I do have the feeling that I’m standing on the edge, just barely able to make out some shape on the horizon.  I can’t yet tell what it is.  Not only is it hard to tell, but it would be even harder to try to express.

I know many of you may be able to relate.

Words can be so cumbersome anyway.  It occurred…

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Going ‘live’ this afternoon…

Hello 👋

Just in case you are interested I’m going live on YouTube this afternoon at 2pm UK time.  The link to my channel is…

The link is actually to my first proper live but it takes you in the right direction.

I’m going to demonstrate how I make a little journal from one piece of printer paper.

You are welcome to lurk or participate in the chat.

Thanks, Tracey xx 🌼

Edit: link to this afternoons live video